Others work very hard to excel at every endeavour in an attempt to keep the family peace. Living with violence creates intense stress for a child. Within an abusive home, children often become silent victims. The abusive behaviour may not be directed at them but most children hear or witness the violence from one adult to another the effects of this can be life long and can have a profound effect. Domestic abuse can leave a child without a childhood.
Parents who misuse alcohol have many problems which impact on their ability to care and protect their children. They present as a risk for their children, when the parent under the influence of the alcohol. Furthermore, children suffer from neglect, emotional and psychological abuse. The children have no power except to learn how to cope with the pain by repressing their feelings. Repression occurs mainly in situations where children are not allowed to express certain feelings, such as anger.
Divorce is becoming more prevalent in our society and unfortunately affects every single person involved. What's more, children are highly affected by divorce and some remain affected throughout their entire lives. No matter how smoothly the marriage ends or how many relationships are patched up, the children remain victims in this epidemic spreading throughout the nation. Though school-age children cope better with separation between parents, there are still many problems that they face. They too are afraid of punishment and abandonment or the possibility of being replaced.
Parent illness and no other relative to take care of the child 5. Abusive relationships between parents 6. Parents using drugs There are lots of changes that the child or young person will experience when coming into care, their emotions and feelings will change, they feel upset and lonely and may feel they have done something wrong, they will feel confused and anxious and not understand why they have been taken away from their family and will not fully understand what is happening to them. It can be a very scary time for them meeting people they don’t know and their new surroundings, there are lots of people involved when a child or young person comes into care which will be very daunting for them especially for a younger child, an older child may not want to co-operate with the social workers or the foster carer’s which will be a very stressful time for all parties. It will take a very long time for a child or young person to be able to trust the carer’s and their family and be able to feel settled in their new home as they may feel like an outsider and do not belong here.
This child may feel that he or she is the cause of the family problems. The scapegoat takes on the role of distracting the family from the central issue. In doing so, the parents begin to focus their attention on the scapegoat’s bad behavior rather than the central issue that started the problem. The scapegoat generally receives negative attention, resulting in making poor life decisions, thus making more negative decisions. Eventually, if other children are in the home, these children will resume the role of the scapegoat once the oldest child leaves home (Strehlow, 2012) Hero- The hero has a role in the family to distract from the central issue by telling the outside world that everything in the family is normal.
It is hard for a partner to cope with personality changes after a stroke especially if the other person has become aggressive and unpredictable. Even when someone knows they have changed, it isn’t easy to control outbursts in future. This is what is upsetting for any member of the family who calls us, needing reassurance and support. Sometimes a partner needs to know they don’t have to put up with behaviour they find threatening and sometimes a call from a teenager suggests their mum should put up with the aggression because it “isn’t their dad” it’s the stroke causing him to behave differently.
In addition, survivor's may have trouble sleeping because of the trauma, anxiety or may directly be related to the experience they had as a child; children may be sexually abused in their own beds. Many survivors were betrayed by the very people they are dependent upon (family, teachers etc.) who cared for them, who insisted they loved them even while abusing them; learning to trust can be extremely difficult under these circumstances. Therefore, this is often the most difficult emotion for an adult survivor of childhood sexual abuse to get in touch with. For many survivors, these emotions are such a basic part of their day-to-day life that they don’t realist that there are alternatives.
Under Age Drinking Alcohol is the drug of choice to many teenagers and they are experiencing the consequences of drinking to much at an early age. As a result, underage drinking is the leading public health problem in this country. Each year approximately five-thousand people under the age of twenty-one die as a result of underage drinking, yet drinking continues to be widespread among adolescents nationwide. There should be a mandatory class that children take in school about the effects of alcohol and other addicting substances. As children move from adolescents to young adulthood they encounter dramatic physical, emotional, and lifestyle changes.The younger that children and adolescents are when they start to drink alcohol are more likely to engage in behaviors that can harm themselves and others.
Children might think of themselves as lesser, or not as good as those who do. This causes repressed anger and resentment towards their father. Children might not always show signs, but it affects them in the inside. Children and Single Parenting begins with the divorce of a couple
While they try their best to deal with their child’s behavioural problems as best they can, the stigma from the child’s peers and teachers only make things that much harder. Ontop of that, children with ADHD also suffer from sleep problems, and while their energy level suggests the sleep is not needed, the lack of sleep definitely poses a problem on their behaviour during the rest of the day. As a result most mothers are extremely stressed out, and studies show that the stressful obligations that come with being the parent of a child with ADHD increase the parents’ alcohol consumption. (Harpin,