After spanking children, they will stop what they are doing at the time and will immediately obey their authority. However, a short time later the children will forget about their misbehavior, but the feeling of the abuse will still remain in their recollection. Psychological control is another way parents can punish their child. This method “uses guilt and the child’s gratitude toward the parent”(307). When this is being portrayed, parents may use signs of disappointment and sadness to control the child’s behavior, causing them feel guilt-ridden and upset for what they did.
Hitting Children Example of Physical violence such as slapping or beating , can range from a mild to strong slap in the face causing bruising and abuse of the body of the child. Some believe that attacking children as a means of discipline and as a style of education is acceptable. They also think that it teaches them not to do things and that it prevents them from what repeating the unacceptable behavior therefore making this practice effective. The imposition of control when parents use physical violence or the threat of violence to control the behavior of the child and include beatings. This method is wrong because it had bad consequences.
There is a difference, however, between punching your child in the face, and spanking him on the bottom when he is misbehaving. Unfortunately, some parents take smacking and spanking their children too far. Some parents use physical discipline to the point where the child is receiving bruises or starts bleeding. Banning the spanking of children will not solve the real abusive cases. People who abuse their children will not stop just because it is illegal(1, Selwyn Duke , The New American).
In case, the student does not obey my instruction, positive punishment, which is the application of an unfavorable stimulus after an undesirable behavior in order to decreases that response, is a very useful method and the result can be shown shortly. For example, if the students are not obey my words I would like to tell their parents and let their parents to reprimand them afterwards or I would just castigate them at that time by myself. Although the students will become dutiful in a short time, they may afraid of me after that and do not want to have a lesson again. It is no doubt that positive punishment is an effective way for punishing students and it can achieve the result in a short time, however, this is not the best way to punish the students. It is because this may not only lead to a damaged relationship between teachers and students, but also can lead to negative associations.
Corporal Punishment: An Unnecessary Evil Corporal Punishment, as Struas and Donnelly (2005) define, “the use of physical force with the intention of causing a child to experience pain, but not injury, for the purpose of correcting or controlling the child’s behavior” (p.3). Although perfectly legal in most states, to intentionally inflict pain upon our children to achieve a desired level of obedience, does not make it right or negate the fact that such types of punishment can have negative effects not only physically, but emotionally and psychologically as well. “Parents need to encourage their kids, support them, spend time with them, and tell them they love them. Parents should not be allowed to hit their children, that is violence and things will only get worse” (Covell & Howe, 2008, p.63). As times progress, more adults view on corporal punishment seem to be following suit, as seen in surveys over the years.
Spanking is wrong Spanking is one of the most common forms of discipline used by parents. Although the very same parents do not condone hitting people, they believe spanking is a quick and effective technique for correcting unwanted behavior (Ramsburg 1). Ironically, by using violent and hurtful means of discipline, parents are instilling negative values in their children. The moral consequences of spanking children can have lifelong negative effects. For young children, parents are their primary role models.
When people say that divorce is one of the most difficult realities for children, I agree with them, as I was one of such kids. But still, I think that it is not reasonable to continue relationships with a person whom you don’t love anymore, or even hate only because of kids. To my mind, the effect of such relationships will be even worse, and I will try to explain why. It is clear that children perceive the world in a way that differs from adults’ one. They know what they want and when they don’t get it, they cry, or scream, or express their emotions in another way.
If a parent feels like they will not be able to stop when spanking and it would lead to beating then they should use one of the other forms of discipline. A little spanking does not hurt, but a beating can lead to death or scars for life. There are many different choices for discipline. A little smack on the hand when they are younger, adds something to their little brains when they get ready to do something, it will make them think twice. A little spank on the bottom does not hurt either.
“On the other hand children also begin to believe that when they receive a reward for stopping an unacceptable behaviour, they should be given something when they treat people with respect” (Hall, 2009). Therefore, children today should not expect to receive these rewards and need to understand that sometimes you may have to complete a task without receiving anything in return. In addition, researchers have discovered that children whose parents use the reward system frequently tend to be less generous compared to their peers (Fabes et al., 1989; Grusec, 1991; Kohn, 1990). The most commonly known example of rewards being used to alter a child’s behaviour is when parents take children shopping. Some parents bribe their children to be quiet or to display “good” behaviour by buying or promising them sweets, toys or other incentives.
Now before we start on why smacking is harmful, can I see a show of hands of people who have been smacked before? Also people who plan on smacking your children when you grow up and have kids yourself? So first of all, why do we smack your children? Is it because they are out of hand? Is it the only method of discipline that works?